Woman Backed for Calling Husband a 'Selfish Brat' Over Tea

Commenters supported a woman who called her husband a "selfish brat" after he complained that she was drinking all of his "rare" tea.

The woman's husband, known as u/yawgmoft, posted about the incident in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received more than 8,400 upvotes and 1,600 comments, one claiming to be the anonymous man's wife. The post can be found here.

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'AITA?'

In the post titled "AITA because I want my wife to drink my tea less?" the man said his wife puts Crystal Light tea packets in all of her water and enjoys sugar-free carbonated ice drinks, ginger ale, and Olipop soda while he prefers water and tea.

"We buy liter bottles of a few Japanese tea drinks, as well as, when I can find it, a milk tea drink that is a relatively rare find," the post read. "This is my favorite treat drink."

He said his wife has "full reign" of the fridge but gets upset when he asks her to save the milk tea for him.

"Though I'm not really enforcing any kind of hard rule and I always let her have a few sips when I get a glass if she doesn't have one as well," the post read.

Recently, the man said he found a glass of tea left on the counter a few moments before his wife asked for another glass.

"I said she's drinking more of it than I am and she absolutely raked me over the coals for it," the post read. "Calling me selfish and a brat, that she likes it too, and that I can't have it all to myself."

The man said that while his wife has all her drinks, he feels like all he has is the tea.

"She has already drank about two to three times more of the tea in the carton than I have," the post read. "Am I being unreasonable about this or should she be more receptive to my requests?"

'Wife in Question Here'

Within an hour of the post going public, a user claiming to be the anonymous man's wife commented.

"Hey, wife in question here," the comment began. "This tea WAS a rare find for many years but we have currently found a reliable source that we can go to any time and restock. Out of the last 3 bottles I have had 4 8oz glasses of his precious damn tea. He is being a brat."

She added in an update that she is pregnant and has been home suffering from "horrendous" morning sickness.

"We have a great relationship, he's just being petty and posting this here because he knows I follow this sub religiously," the wife commented. "I was short with him earlier about it and I do feel bad, but I'm very barfy but he honestly had it coming because he's being crazy about this."

Redditor Reactions

More than 1,600 users commented on the post, many telling the man he is an a**hole for neglecting to mention that his wife is pregnant.

"YTA. Only bc I saw your wife commenting and you didn't mention she's pregnant!!!" one user commented. "I envy your relationship. Y'alls comments are pure gold."

"OMG SHE'S PREGNANT??? And you're b**ching about tea???" another user commented.

"The pregnant lady has had morning sickness all day," another user wrote. "If the tea tastes good to her and she can keep it down then let her enjoy the tea."

One user offered up their advice for sharing their special treats with a partner while another thanked the couple for the online entertainment.

"Sometimes I get grumpy when I buy a special treat for myself and my husband consumes 75% of it," one user commented. "If I REALLY care about the treat I buy one for me and one for my husband so we can each enjoy at our own pace."

"Finding out that this is a petty, almost sarcastic argument that you guys are battling out while sitting next to each other has made my night so much better thank you," another user wrote.

Newsweek reached out to u/yawgmoft for comment.

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