Woman Denying Stepsister College Fund After She Stole Her Boyfriend Cheered

A woman has been backed for refusing to give her 19-year-old stepsister her college costs for one big reason—The latter had slept with her boyfriend.

User u/mythrowawayacckunt on Reddit explained: "I have a stepsister 'Lily'. We both finished high school this summer. We both want to attend university next year and are currently doing other stuff and still living at home. Lily is my stepdad's daughter, they moved in with mom and me two years ago. My (ex-)boyfriend 'Daniel' of three years and I planned on applying to the same—pretty prestigious and expensive—university and want to study the same subject. So we still would've been able to be close to each other and continue our relationship. Daniel, Lily, and I all attended the same school and at our prom night I caught them making out in the back."

Devastated, the poster explained how her boyfriend tried to apologize and work things out, but she said she felt he couldn't make up for what happened and ended things.

After this, he and her stepsister Lily got together, and she caught them in bed together at their house.

"None of my business anymore. We luckily don't share a room," explained the poster. "Daniel however still plans to apply to [the same] university, while I don't, because of him being there. I found another great uni, that will accept me and isn't as expensive."

Relationship coach, author, and CEO and founder of Heart Passion Institute, Melody Chadamoyo told Newsweek: "When a person you know, love, and trust betrays you like this it is very difficult to handle. I know families that have been broken down over this. You feel like you can't trust yourself or anyone. It can make you lose self-confidence and trust for yourself and others. It can make you clingy in subsequent relationships if you don't work on yourself to heal."

After finding a new school to attend, the Redditor explained that she will now only need a small part of her college fund.

"My mom set this fund up with my dad because they both earn pretty good money," she explained. "It has enough money for multiple years at whatever university I'd like. Meanwhile Lily has almost no money saved up for college because her parents didn't set up a fund."

Issues arose when Lily announced she was planning to attend the same school as Daniel—so that they could continue their relationship—but doesn't have the money to go without taking out a large loan. As a result, she asked her stepsister if she could have her college fund.

"I don't want to, because I have other purposes for the money," said the poster. "But she and stepdad are calling me a selfish brat, that isn't capable of sharing. My mom says, it's my money and I get to decide what to do with it. Daniel recently also started texting me and pressuring me into giving Lily my money, so they can stay together."

Turning to the internet for advice, she asked if she was in the wrong to refuse to give away the fund, despite the fact she didn't need it.

​​Redditors were quick to share their thoughts on the situation, overwhelmingly telling the woman she should not give up her money.

"Tell Lily you already gave her something you don't need anymore—Daniel," said one commenter, while another wrote: "It is YOUR money that YOUR parents saved for you. Lily is not your concern."

"I think she is right to withhold the money," agreed Chadamoyo. "People need to learn that there are consequences to their choices and actions.

"Under the circumstances, she shouldn't give her any money at all. Maybe they should sit down and have a conversation where she explains why her sister's actions were hurtful. There are codes to these things. I am all for not owning people and fate, but I know some people who only want certain people because they are with someone else."

"Disregarding the whole boyfriend thing, it's YOUR fund. You don't owe her anything just because you're not using all of the money," said another reply on Reddit.

Chadamoyo explained that being cheated on can be incredibly difficult. She offered some advice: "The important thing to remember is that you were not a factor when these people chose to be together. They were looking for excitement or whatever it was they felt they wanted could get from the other person. The best thing is to take time to heal from it. Get help if needed. Be kind to yourself. Do things that make you feel happy with people who make you feel good about yourself."

Newsweek reached out to u/mythrowawayacckunt for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.