Grimes: People 'Hate' Those Who 'Aren't the Correct Type of Neurodivergent'

Grimes has taken to Twitter to open up about her struggles interacting and relating to other people.

The Canadian musician, 34, went on to suggest that people "don't vibe with spectrum-y folk" like her. Grimes, also the mother to two of billionaire business magnate Elon Musk's children, received support from her social-media followers, with many sharing their own experiences.

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Grimes is pictured here at the 2021 MET Gala and with former partner Elon Musk (inset). The singer has opened up about being a "neurodivergent" person on Twitter. Taylor Hill/WireImage / Twitter @grimezsz

The neurodiversity movement started in the 1990s and centered largely around discussions of autism. Supporters say the struggle is like that for acceptance of ethnic minorities, and for equality in gender and sexual orientation.

Late on Monday night, Grimes used her Twitter account to share her experiences with her 1.3 million followers. Her former partner Musk, 51, has said he has autism.

"Sometimes, I wonder like... everyone talks [about] accepting everybody but if u aren't the correct type of neurodivergent ppl just rly hate you," wrote Grimes. "I can't figure out how to read the room or act normal and I never will. Most ppl legit don't vibe w[ith] spectrum-y folk."

Grimes has never opened up about a specific disorder she may have that would place her on the spectrum, but she has been vocal about mental health in the past.

After her then-boyfriend Musk hosted Saturday Night Live in 2021, Grimes, who had appeared in a cameo, revealed on Instagram that she had been rushed to hospital with a "panic attack." Afterwards, she said that was a good time to start therapy.

She has also been vocal about her struggles with mental health. In 2020, she discussed her personal experiences of anxiety and depression in an interview with Elle magazine.

In recent months, Grimes had used her Twitter account to ask her followers for advice on plastic surgery to change the shape of her ears to look like those of an elf. Musk openly urged her not to do this.

Followers replied to Grimes' initial tweet about not being the correct type of "neurodivergent" person, revealing that she often offends people accidentally.

"Me when somebody opens up to me and tells me about their trauma and I accidentally laugh," Twitter user @jacobandrewxox wrote in response to Grimes, who replied, "Yo I am extremely bad at figuring out if something is dark comedy or serious haha , this can def lead to super offending ppl."

More people tweeted to praise Grimes for her statement, and to share their own experiences.

"I struggle with the same thing, I think a lot of artists do," wrote actor and musician Na'ku'set Gould, 26, who played Grace Cardinal on TV series Degrassi.

"You just end up finding other neurodivergent people to kick it with," another Twitter user wrote.

South African entrepreneur Vinny Lingham, 43, backed up Grimes' statement too by replying, "There is no 'normal.' You don't need to change, but those who think there is a normal, do."

Many people in the Twitter thread wrote that they were "neurodivergent" and thanked Grimes for making music that spoke to them. In 2012, in an interview with W magazine, the singer described her work as "ADD music."

Just before Grimes had tweeted her statement on "spectrum-y" people, she shared a photograph of herself and Musk referring to him as one of her "best friends." Both have stated that they are still close without being together, and Musk liked the tweet sent by Grimes.

Newsweek has reached out to Grimes' representatives for further comment.

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